Jessica Alba says her daughters are studying efficient communication expertise whereas in remedy.

On Wednesday, PEOPLE attended the Trustworthy Renovations screening with Alba and Lizzy Mathis at CHIEF Clubhouse in New York Metropolis, and spoke with the actress and Trustworthy Firm co-founder about parenting.

“They’re on the age the place their remedy is extra particular person, however it’s given them, I believe, a language the place they will talk with me their wants in another way,” Alba, 42, informed PEOPLE of daughters Haven Garner, 12, and Honor Marie, 15. (She additionally has a son: 5½-year-old Hayes Alba.)

“It is so good to have the ability to give them the instruments to have the ability to perceive themselves higher and to have the ability to actually articulate their wants,” she added. “However once they had been like … 9, 10, 11, it was completely different. They did not have the identical sort of company that they’ve now.”

“So now they’re like, ‘Mother, I need to have the ability to speak to my therapist and also you not at all times hear in,’ ” continued the mom of three.

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As for his or her personalities, “I’d say they’re all wildly completely different,” Alba informed PEOPLE. “They’re all at completely different phases in life they usually want one thing completely different from me.”

“The one factor that’s constant,” she continued, “[is] my 5-year-old will get jealous once I cuddle my 12-year-old or my 15-year-old. My 12-year-old will get jealous once I cuddle the 15-year-old and the 5-year-old. And my 15-year-old will get jealous once I cuddle the 12-year-old.”

“If I cuddle considered one of them and rub their head, then hastily I’ve all of them on high of me they usually’re all like, ‘Mother, rub my head, rub my head, simply rub my again,’ ” the Sin Metropolis actress added.

In Could, Alba mentioned how elevating three youngsters together with her husband of 15 years, Money Warren, has made her love him “a lot extra.”

“Marriage doesn’t really feel the identical as selecting to lift a human. That’s a distinct stage of household,” she informed Maria Menounos on her podcast Heal Squad. “This individual wants each of you eternally, no matter whether or not you guys develop collectively or don’t develop collectively.”

Again on the N.Y.C. press cease on Wednesday for Alba’s new present, which simply bought picked up for season 2, she additionally shared how birthdays had been “at all times a giant deal” in her family rising up, so she likes to proceed the custom.

“I had a giant Mexican household, and so we’ve got at the least 50 individuals at each birthday,” she mentioned. “So nearly each different weekend was a birthday or a vacation, and there have been at all times guitars and there was at all times a potluck of meals.”

And giving “significant playing cards” is a particular birthday exercise: “That is the factor that my youngsters actually take pleasure in, is the playing cards they write for one another and for us. And in order that’s actually candy. That is in all probability what they cherish essentially the most.”

Trustworthy Renovations will stream at no cost beginning Friday on The Roku Channel.