Leah Messer is all about elevating sturdy, unbiased ladies.

The Teen Mother: Subsequent Chapter star, 31, tells PEOPLE that she’s embracing single mother life, together with her deal with giving daughter Adalynn Religion, 10, and twins Aliannah Hope and Aleeah Grace, 13, all the things they should thrive as they tackle the subsequent chapter in their very own lives.

“It’s actually a lot enjoyable to see, to observe them develop and be part of your complete expertise. They’ve utterly completely different personalities and are simply so distinctive. I find it irresistible,” Messer tells PEOPLE.

“I really like each a part of our journey, particularly watching them develop up. I feel we had a second lately that occurred the place I am seeing the muse that I’ve constructed for our household come to fruition. And as they become older, it is all the things I ever imagined it may very well be.”

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As the women become older, Messer is discovering herself looking for “steadiness” between conserving communication open on the subject of the enjoyable issues and the powerful occasions.

“I feel an open dialogue of communication is all the time extraordinarily important if you’re elevating children, particularly daughters, The way it goes, I feel, will depend on the dialog, however we discover steadiness I get them my the very best reply that I’ve for them, and I do my analysis.”

On a path of development of her personal, Messer says, “The whole lot that I’ve discovered through the years, I implement it into their lives. That is what I see as I am watching them develop up.”

“I really like being a mother, particularly a woman mama,” she praises.

Messer was beforehand married to Jeremy Calvert from 2012 to 2015, with whom she shares daughter Adalynn Religion. She was additionally beforehand married to Corey Simms from 2010 to 2011, with whom she shares twin daughters Aliannah Hope and Aleeah Grace.

Messer admits that there is stress, each elevating her children within the highlight and from her circle of relatives historical past, to be intentional and get issues proper together with her daughters.

“I need to make it possible for I am giving them the suitable instruments and schooling and I positively really feel assured that I’m,” she shares.

“You need to say the suitable issues and it may be a problem if you’re having some conversations with them. You positively need to say age-appropriate issues and I feel 13, I imply, that is 4 years away from the age that I turned pregnant with [the twins],” she says. “I feel I am breaking that cycle no doubt, however that does not imply it does not take steadiness.”

Like different mothers, she finds herself second-guessing choices and questioning what extra she will be able to do.

“I feel all of us mothers really feel like, ‘Okay, is that this the suitable path although?’ Particularly mothers that perhaps did not have that path, or a single mother that is doing it on her personal. Typically I fear I am not doing issues proper however then I see that they know these items and we’ve got these conversations. They’re superb children and they’ll do nice issues.”

Messer is absorbing the pure “pleasure” she will get from seeing her three ladies “develop and blossom.”

“My biggest pleasure is simply laughing collectively, seeing that basis I arrange for them come to fruition and seeing how all the things I discovered is carried out in what I’ve constructed. These ladies have gotten all the things that I wished them to be, however extra, all the things that they need to be, utilizing these instruments. They’re the very best, a good higher model of me.”

Sustain with Messer and her ladies by tuning into new episodes ofTeen Mother: Subsequent Chapter, airing on MTV on Wednesdays at 8pm ET/PT.